It can be so difficult to organise a surprise birthday party for a teenager. Even if they don’t like to admit it, most parents struggle when it comes to organising an event that their teen is guaranteed to enjoy. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with finding teenagers hard to handle – whether you’re planning to throw a birthday party for them or just trying to make them stick to their curfew. By their very nature, teenagers are difficult. Yet, this doesn’t mean that organising a successful teen birthday has to be a nightmare.
When it comes to throwing an event for an older child, you’ve got to find the right balance between supervision and well, super annoying. The very last thing that teenagers want is a parent looking over their shoulder every five minutes asking if they’re having a good time. It can be hard to come to terms with the fact that you’re not always welcome in your teen’s life anymore, but it is a vital part of letting them grow up to be their own person. Here’s a handy guide to throwing a successful teen surprise birthday party that doesn’tveer out of your control.
It’s Cool To Follow The Rules
You are the parent and you are expected to enforce suitable rules, says Eventective.com. That means no alcohol if your child or your child’s friends are under the legal drinking age. Yes, they’ll think you’re the coolest parent in the world if you let them raid your liquor cabinet, but it is absolutely not worth the trouble it will inevitably cause. If a guest at your party gets hold of any alcohol at all and their parent then finds out – you could be in some very serious legal trouble indeed. Make it clear to your child that alcohol won’t be allowed or tolerated and that you ‘re trusting him or her to be responsible about this issue.
Keep It Manageable
You don’t want to impose a hundred and one different restrictions on your child before the event has even started, but you do want to make sure that it’s going to be manageable. Do ask your teen how many people they think it’s suitable to invite and if your figure is wildly different – try to come to a reasonable compromise. You’ll probably end up with more guests than you’d like but hopefully, you’ll avoid playing host to a high school’s worth of raging teenagers. If your child is being very stubborn about this issue – make sure that they’re aware of the consequences should anything get broken or go wrong. Try not to preach or lecture, just give your teen the facts and let him or her decide whether or not a huge party is worth the risk.
Let The Teen Decide
You must remember that you’re not planning a party for a child anymore. Your little one is all grown up and they’re capable of organising their own fun. Don’t try to muscle in on the party planning if you’re not welcome – let your teen make their own choices regarding theme, food, decorations and activities. He or she will, of course, have to run everything by you first. As long as all proposals are safe and appropriate, let them go ahead, says Yahoo Voices journalist Sue Wallick.
This is the trickiest issue when it comes to planning a teen party. Do you stay and supervise proceedings or do you trust your teento behave and leave the party altogether? It’s a tricky issue because your teen is only going to have one preference and that’ll be that you are as far away as possible. Just think about when you were sixteen – how horrified would you have been if your parents insisted on attending your social functions?
It’s important to show your teen that you trust them, so if you dare – go out to a friend’s house or to the cinema for the night. You are free to stay as close to your house as you like, just as long as you don’t pop in or make an unexpected appearance, say the experts at WikiHow.com. Leave a list of rules and important contact numbers on the fridge and then try not to worry. There’s only way to find out whether or not your trust in your teen is justified and that’s allowing them to test it. If they fail, you’ve got the perfect excuse to refuse all future party requests.
Author Bio: Eva is a high school counsellor and a mother to two teenage boys. She can usually be found giving students advice or worrying about how uncool her sons think she is. She recommends DNAKids for help and advice on how to throw a cool, safeteen birthday party.